Three meditations from one month of fatherhood
What my newborn is teaching me about grief, self-judgement, and attention
Writing
My blog is below. You can also read and subscribe to my Substack, where I also write.
I also have a number of posts on my Alexander Technique focussed website, Expanding Awareness, and I have written a number of essays for Every.
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2025
18 April
Notes from the threshold of fatherhood
I’m excited to meet my son
02 March
2024
Notes on gratitude and surrender
I am not the architect of my own blessings, and that’s good
27 July
Why real change feels weird, unfamiliar and wrong
If always do what ‘feels right’, you’ll never change
14 March
Friendship is a co-adventure
I want friends who I do life with, rather than just talk about my life with
07 March
Notes on identity - authenticity vs 'profilicity'
Exploring who you are in a world where everyone is watching
17 February
Prioritising my time as a free agent
How to find the balance between all the important things
15 February
I'd rather be uncomfortable than numb
What would you give to feel sadness, if you couldn’t feel anything at all?
09 February
Signing my children away
It turns out I can want something and be scared of it at the same time
06 February
2023
Should suppresses want
Once all the shoulds have been stripped away, the true wants can be seen
17 August
Grieve the road not taken
However life unfolds, I won’t avoid the pain of all the ways it didn’t
17 August
Choose what you want to feel rewarding
Because I don’t want to bounce around apps like a squirrel on meth
15 April
You are large, you contain multitudes
In response to the advice to “be yourself”, perhaps the answer should be “which one?”
26 March
Job titles are contemporary archetypal energies
Each role has an energy you can tune into, which drives your goals and motivation
04 March
When the body knows more than the mind
It wasn’t heartburn
25 February
Staying alive to aliveness
On the oppressive heaviness of London after six months in Bali
18 February
A densely-patterned fabric of meaningful stories
Maybe that’s all ‘home’ ever really is
11 February
2022
The courage to feel it all
Allowing emotions fully is what lets them pass through and transform
09 October
I'm afraid you'll see my many faults
It’s actually quite scary publishing online with a meaningfully large audience
04 June
12 February
2021
Beware the trap of the long, slow decline
One of my many cautionary crypto stores
17 November
Be aware of the rhythms that bind you
It’s easy to get recalibrated by unhelpful signals
07 November
Crabs helping each other out of the bucket
This is the emergency crablift department
20 September
Getting my business to nudge me towards behaviours I want
If I want to read, grow and learn, my business must facilitate that
15 September
14 September
08 September
06 September
All at once or not at all
Why I am good at short form, but rarely do long form
04 September
We must be able to talk about taboos
Discursive blind spots limit our ability to act usefully
01 September
Building my kind of lifestyle business
I want spaciousness, not a grind
30 August
Quitting my job was a no-regrets move
How fear setting made me realise it was pretty much all upside
26 August
21 August
Be original by not trying to be original
Because trying is just doing what you already know, with more effort
20 August
Greasing the creative groove
It’s easier to keep the flywheel spinning than to get it started
21 June
Being self-directed is its own work
The role of manager is necessary and doesn’t go away when self-employed
19 June
An idea cannot exist out of context
Why merely copying and pasting is dangerous
27 May
Fumbling for legibility in Alexander Technique
But making it legible is the work, so let’s go
27 March
The paradox of an untroubled life
A little (or a lot) of suffering can go a long way
26 March
Different kinds of authority
Do you follow the message or the speaker?
14 March
22 February
When the void talks back
Please keep writing
22 February
How to get the most from Write of Passage
From the perspective of a three-time mentor
21 February
Navigating the vulnerability hangover
I said what???
20 February
I wouldn't start from here — recovering from burnout
The story of how much life changed direction
19 February
18 February
2020
Fall down; get up - cultivating an anti-fragile identity
In which I look for the silver lining
22 August
Practicing Zen
Learning to be with what is, rather than run away
23 July
My ultimate guide to public speaking
An emotionally resonant step by step system for nailing any public talk
23 July
Mind-wandering and the dark side of productivity
How suppression of the Default Mode Network blocks constructive daydreaming
23 July
Let the others find you
Someone needs to go first. It may as well be you.
23 July
How to use fear as a tool for growth
Tune into the somatic sense of fear to stay at your growth edge
23 July
How to be Superman
Why Alexander Technique is the difference between Superman and Clark Kent
23 July
How should we think about carbon removal?
Where is the middle way between techno-optimism and deindustrialisation?
21 July
Exploring who we are through awe
What takes your breath away, and what does that tell you about yourself?
20 July
Integrating non-doing with global systemic change
Or how to get out of the way of collective unfoldment
23 February